The comfort that comes with you keeps me here,
The fact I’m familiar with our routine
And rather I’m pleased or not I know you’ll be waiting for me
You’ll hold my hand and pray with me
And Know all the little things there is to know about me
I’ll get the gifts and words of affirmation
The look from you that will make any onlookers know what we have is real,
But it’s not…
You see real love is scary,
It has you in a vulnerable place,
It leaves you to take a chance without any amends
And will look you dead in your eyes and tell you that this might not end well but the journey will be so worth the fail
Real love isn’t safe
It’s quite dangerous
It’ll have you jumping off of cliffs and taking a risk just to see that person smile
Real love will have your heart racing, mind unfocused, and most of all real love you’ll know it’s love
And you’ll never have the thought of “This is good enough”
Take time out to figure out your standards…Set boundaries to figure out what you deem acceptable and uphold those standards. Remember it’s not enough for someone to just love you. They need to love you properly and uphold your standards, beliefs, and customs.
Write out what “love” looks and feels like to you…You know in movies when they ask one of the couples how did you know they were the one? Think of this question in that manner. How does love make you feel? What does someone loving you properly look like? Don’t rush to answer.
Understand your idea of love will often differ from others…It’s okay if your idea of love is protection and comfort, while someone else is gifts and words of affirmation. There’s a reason why there’s more than one love language. This is also why Tip 1 is so important. It’s not enough for them to love you. They need to love you according to who you are and what love looks like to you
It’s not always meant for love to make sense…It may seem unrealistic to some, but there is such a thing as love at first sight. It’s not for everyone to go through the dating stages for 2-5years. Then get engaged for another 1-5 years, and then get married. It may simply be we’ve known each other for 3 months and we’re getting married! Or you might be someone who doesn’t believe in marriage and is simply content having a life partner. Whatever aligns with your values and makes you happy. However, don’t misconstrue comfortability for love. Never allow the fact you can’t be alone to force you into a relationship that you know you aren’t supposed to be in. If you’re someone who can’t stand to be with yourself and constantly needs others to make you feel whole, it’s time to do some soul searching.
Allow yourself to feel safe in your feelings…I hate sitting with my emotions. I think crying makes me weak. I feel as though there’s always something more productive for me to be doing than to figure out why I’m feeling sad. I feel this way due to the guard I’ve built to protect myself from feeling. Why? Cause when you allow yourself to be vulnerable enough to feel you are now subjecting yourself to also be hurt. Who the hell wants to be hurt? So how does someone obsessed with marriage don’t even allow themselves the safe space to fall in love with someone? However, be better than me and create a safe space for your feelings and feel free in those feelings.
Everyone’s idea of love is different. However, I will say that being in love, feeling love, and viewing love are some of the most beautiful things you can experience. Remember that love doesn’t always have to be romantic either. You can have a soulmate that is a friend. Either way, don’t allow others’ perspectives of love to change yours. If you believe in love at first sight, keep believing in it. If you think love is something that grows on one, keep believing in it. See love cannot be aligned with statistics or factual information; it’s simply based on you. How does it make you feel?
While life can give many a negative outlook on love, don’t allow that to shape your views on it. Some people might not believe in love or feel like love always ends up in heartbreak. Just know that’s a part of life and remembering to have loved and to have lost is more rewarding than never loving at all.
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