All About You Phase

Selfishness is not a bad thing. In all actuality it’s important. Just as it’s important to be aware of the energy and people you let in your bubble. People who you feel as though support you may only support you when you’re at the same level as them. Meaning once you start to get out of their comfort zone of what level in life you’re supposed to be in, they’ll no longer support you. Genuine people don’t have these weird “levels” where they’re competing and comparing themselves against you. However, people who are in your life for merely the benefit of what you have to give them can only support you in an environment that is comforting to them. Therefore once you start growing into who you want to be, and no longer a reflection of comfort, they get uncomfortable, envious, and spiteful. This is where the “all about you phase”, and “mourning of people who are alive phase” come into play.

You have to choose YOU no matter what. In choosing you, you also choose the people who accept the constant new versions of you and support you no matter what. People will make it seem as though you’re entitled to keep them in your life because of the number of years you’ve known each other or even because of their title. However, if they aren’t growing with you it’s okay to mourn people who are very much so alive. Pay attention to the people who minimize what you do. They are not for you. People who constantly try to bring up negative things or can’t accept your growth. They are not for you. Most of all people who continue to put you in environments you’ve outgrown. They are not for you.

1. 1. 1. Spend time with the things that make YOU happy, Stop doing things that you have no desire to do. If going out with your friends versus staying in with your partner makes you happy DO That. If your new friends are more fun to be around than the friends you’ve known for 12 years, go out with your new friends. DO YOU! While in any type of relationship you’re in whether it’s familial, romantic, or friendship you have to compromise things sometimes. However, your happiness should never be one of those things you have to compromise.

1. 1. 2. Understand the environments that you are no longer comfortable in, To become a “regular” in the environments you want to be in you have to put yourself in those environments. I live by not staying in rooms where you’re the smartest, wealthiest, most cultured, etc in. I constantly go to restaurants, lounges, shopping centers, etc where people make WAY more money than me, are more educated than me, and people have diverse cultural backgrounds. This is because those are the environments that push me. Staying comfortable will not get you to where you are trying to go. By doing this I continue to learn new things constantly, I continue to make more money constantly, and I continue to grow as a person. As someone who values constant growth, putting yourself in these types of environments will always have you growing.

1. 1. 3. Embrace change, You’re not going to be able to strategically plan out every little detail in your life. Sometimes things you used to be afraid of doing are all you want to do and that’s ok. Don’t try to have it all figured out, but instead embrace the constant change and continue to become the best version of yourself.

1. 1. 4. Mourn people who are alive, Now of course I don’t morbidly mean this at all, but the people you surround yourself with are so important. Stop allowing negative, envious, small-minded, resistant to growth, resistant to change, non-supportive people around you. Quite frankly these people might honestly be your family and friends. You have to surround yourself with positive people, supportive, joyous, big dreams, growing, and changing people. When you surround yourself with these environments you’ll continue to advance, and don’t become stagnant in a place you’ve outgrown, and are no longer supposed to be in.

1. 1. 5. Be patient with yourself, Perfection does not exist. I am someone who delays things due to wanting to be perfect. It’s never going to be perfect. You may have 12 billion business ventures you want to take, 12 million trips you want to experience, or a billion different things you feel as though you should have already accomplished. Pace yourself and know as long as you continue to work towards these things they will come to pass. Don’t over-exuberant yourself trying to run someone else’s race. Win your own.

Don’t just choose you on some days, choose YOU every day. To hell with people who try to knock you for being you. By choosing yourself, you’re setting yourself up for the desires of your heart to come to pass. Remember to follow those five useful tips and begin your “All About You Phase” NOW!