Sex was deemed a terrible act for many people at a young age. Those who were experienced sexually were shunned. While the cadence for those who didn’t were put on a pedal stool. The society we live in illustrates sex through the lenses of pornography, sugar babies, exotic dancers, and so many other avenues. This perpetuates a perverted depiction of sex. Despite your religious or non-religious beliefs in regards to sex; sex is not a perverted act that should make you feel like a terrible person. Sex was meant to be something beautiful shared amongst people.
Due to the depiction of sex in our society, something that is beautiful has now been negatively illustrated. When we’ve been told our entire lives something that was meant for good is bad it leaves for confusion. We live in a society that feens for quick self-gratification. Therefore the perversion of sex is not surprising at all. However, sex was never meant to be a bad thing our society created that narration.
Living in a society that is quick to judge and slow to understand the why behind things has left many people living in constant guilt and shame. Rather you are someone who completely abstains from sex due to how sex has been illustrated to you. Or someone who may be beyond sexually active due to underlying abuse, lack of self-worth, or even societal pressures to be sexually active. It’s important to understand the why behind your acts first, then work from there.
Five Tips To Help Prevent Reckless Sexual Activity
Get a true understanding of how you view sex. Ex: It’s okay if your view of sex has been perverted due to our society. However, if that’s not how you want to view sex change your perspective of it.
Set boundaries for yourself when it comes to sex and abide by them. Ex: I don’t believe men who I’m not engaged to/ married should have access to me sexually therefore anyone who does not respect my boundary cannot have access to me.
Don’t allow other peoples perspectives of to sex become yours. Ex: If view sex as something you should be able to experience without judgement you surround yourself with people who respect your perspective with no judgement
Love yourself, and trust yourself in this process.
Don’t judge yourself…The society we live in will judge you enough to last a million lifetimes. Despite us trying to change the narrative, society has already embedded in our brains what’s right and what’s wrong. So rather you want to be sexually free or sexually closed make sure that’s what you want and don’t beat yourself up about it.
For some waiting till marriage is absurd while for others it’s a goal they plan on achieving. Regardless of either way sex is beautiful and not some shameful act. Don’t allow the perversion of sex to take the beauty out of it and always remember to set, abide, and live by your sexual boundaries.
